The vivacious Fox in Flats has been flying the Anonymums flag high, and running dares on her blog to help mums break out of their fashion ruts. One of my favourite dares was to wear red lipstick everyday for a week.
I posted the dare on my Facebook page and a friend said “I’d love to try, but I have no upper lip.”
I had never noticed my friend’s lack of top lip before, but it was obviously at the forefront of her mind when I mentioned bright lips. I couldn’t imagine a whole life of not wearing bold lips, not even once. I think she’d look great in a paper bag, personally.
It struck me that we all have these ideas about what we should and shouldn’t have in terms of our looks, and we (women) feel apologetic when we don’t come with all the accoutrements we’re ‘supposed to’ come with. It’s silly really, because I’m pretty sure by the time you reach your 30s, we’ve all figured out that we come in different shapes and sizes: as The Smiths say, some girls are bigger than others. Indeed, some have no top lip and some are missing other bits.
I have something missing. In fact, two somethings. I don’t have eyebrows. Well, I do, but they consist of about 12 hairs each. I’ve never had to pluck, wax or dye them. They’re just there, two tiny smudges. Most people don’t notice until I point it out, and then we have a good chuckle and I go on to live a full and happy life with no eyebrows. I do squint a lot, but that seems to be genetic (thanks mum). Having lived a full and happy life without eyebrows, I can’t actually figure out what they’re there for. Perhaps you can enlighten me, O-eyebrowed-ones.
The bottom line? We are so much more likely to notice our own ‘flaws’, but not that of other people. I think my friend with no top lip looks fabulous. Perhaps we’re all a little bit weird and wonderful, and that’s what makes us unique.
It made me wonder: what other bits are women missing? What part of you is not standard issue? Do you feel self conscious about it, or is it your secret weapon?